All goals start with an intent to accomplish something. On the way, something inevitably comes up that challenges your courage to keep going. You might fight to get through, freeze up or flee. The classic fight, freeze or flee reactions then override your original intent to accomplish your goal.
Boxing fitness helps you learn more about the basic characteristics of the three F’s, fight, freeze and flee, and how they influence you.
- Fighting your way through your problems mostly feels like leaning forward and punching as hard as you can. The neck and shoulders tense up, the fists hit harder and there is a sense of urgency to make something happen.
- Freezing is more of a self conscious thing. Trying to do something correctly or in order to please others is a way of freezing up. Your own authentic expression goes on hold and all of your effort goes into doing it right.
- Fleeing is all about checking out. Leaving the body as a stand in while you go somewhere else. You might put on a generic smile, go blank or exhibit anxious characteristics that indicate you are no longer present.
The three F’s, if strong enough, can derail you from your intent to achieve your goals. Here are some tips of how to deal with each of the three F’s.
Fight: Put on your gloves! Take it up with a heavy bag! Fight as much as you want. It feels good. When you are ready, you can explore finding a range from fight to calm action.
Freezing is common. We all get caught up in trying to do things right or correctly. Fortunately, there are signs you can read when you step into that particular ring. You can train to either step into the ring and handle business or step back out. Trying to be correct, to look right, blocks the punch path. Let it go.
Fleeing is the act of checking out. You leave the body to handle a situation while you “go fishing”. A boxer generally flees a situation by turning away over the rearmost shoulder. Flinching away from a punch. In other words, uncertain how to handle the incoming punches and fleeing. The anecdote is the bob and weave return. You train to feel the moment you are fleeing, and to return with a rolling motion that brings you back to the present.